How to be a good friend

 

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Show up. That’s it, the end.

Seriously though, it’s really that simple. We complicate the basic mechanism of a friendship with other fluff. For example: If someone (especially a woman) articulates that they are overwhelmed, stressed, wound-up, lonely, or any variance of those – Show up man. Either in word, or deed.

Chances are, if a lady friend has dug down deep in her well of vulnerability to reach out, well, we have the obligation and privilege as human beings to show up. Even for that Drama Momma. Bless her.

Showing up looks different, to different people. (Read ‘The 5 Love Languages’ for a nice baseline.) I show up mostly by edifying, or encouraging people. Or making them laugh-pee. It’s my thang. Do your thang, though. Do what feels natural, but for the love of Pete, do something.

The degree of pride that a woman must set aside to even admit she needs a friend or two, or ten, on her squad is tremendous. Let this sink in.

Women are supposed to have all our crap together, and our hair in place. All the answers, to all the household and work quandaries, and still want to be groped at the end of the day.

We have enough pressures, yes?

So, let’s get our power and our high from lifting each other up, instead of tearing other women down. Imagine what a beautiful community of women to behold, in shouldering the ups and downs together. Satan can pick you off much easier, when you isolate yourself from the heard. Have you ever told your children to hold hands and stay together?? Yes…now it’s sinking in. Hold hands and stay together. Refuse to gossip, or to even passively be around it. It’s a poison. Don’t drink it in.

Show up.

Show love.

Show funny.

Show real.

Show Jesus.

 

Warmly, Sarah

 

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Summer book list 2016

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I love to read books. There’s nothing like the crisp pages of a brand-new book – Particularly a hardback. There’s something permanent and formal about the written word. The Bible, being the ultimate example: Never changing, reliable, infallible, perfect.

Summer is the perfect time to lounge in the sunshine with a good book. Getting swept away in the plot of a new book is almost like a mini-vacation. In the Summertime, I tend to lean towards books that are lighter in subject. However, there was something almost imperceptibly different about this Summer, that had me reaching for more than the usual Summer fluff. Just something in the air, I can’t explain it. It was a soft tugging for my attention. Maybe God equipping me for something. Nonetheless, here are my Summer reads:

  • When Parents Text by Lauren Kaelin & Sophia Fraioli – Hilariously bad texts from parents. I stumbled upon this book, back when I was working at Nordstrom. It was a slow night, I picked up this book, and laughed so hard I had to retreat back into the dressing room. I haven’t stopped laughing.
  • The Aviator’s Wife by Melanie Benjamin – The fictional biography of Anne Morrow Lindbergh. Historically, one of the most tumultuous and painfully public lives, as a Lindbergh. Anne’s blustery marriage, epic highs and tragic lows, made me feel normal. I devoured this book.
  • Girls With Swords by Lisa Bevere – This is no sweet girly pep talk. What if you discovered that you held an invincible, incorruptible, invisible weapon? Women everywhere can become heroes. Who we might be in the future, depends on our ability to fight for it. The encouragement within this book is tremendous. I want my daughters to read it next!
  • Where’d You Go, Bernadette by Maria Semple – My incredibly joyful neighbor, Brie, put this in my hands. Admittedly, I have not begun to read it yet, but it sounds like an original and moving adventure. Bernadette disappears, leaving her family and life behind. Her daughter is left weaving together emails, receipts, and school memos, to solve the riddle of her imperfect mother. Are you trying to say something, Brie?! Ha, ha ha.
  • The Spirit of Python by Jentezen Franklin – Pastor Franklin helps you understand the subtle strategies and tactics that Satan employs, and how we can detect the spiritual battle in our own lives. I am in the middle of reading this book, for the second time. Enough said.
  • The Birth Order Book by Dr. Kevin Leman – As a former psychology major, I thoroughly enjoyed this book! Give me all the psychology. Everywhere. It’s all about birth order in this book (obviously, *snort*.) Through stories and examples, I learned more about the “whys” of me, as well as my kids, and those around me. I have always been interested in birth orders. Ask anyone. For the record, First borns rule.
  • For the Love by Jen Hatmaker – Everyone at work was given a copy of this, and thank goodness. I laughed my way through this entire book. It’s so real, its unreal. Did you know that I got in a Twitter fight with Jen Hatmaker?! True story. But I still listed her book here, so…

What did you read this Summer? If you say “nothing,” we can’t be friends. Sorry.

Warmly, Sarah

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Top 3 mascara picks

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Behold, the trifecta of mascaras! This is the mascara dream team in my book. These 3 are my top favorites, my tried-and-true.

When I look for top performing mascaras, I’m typically searching for one to build length in my lashes. Volume is secondary to me, because what I really need, and love, is length. Also, I like very black, ‘noir’ mascara. Mascaras are tricky, because you can’t walk into an Ulta or Sephora, and swatch them onto your hand, like you can a lipstick. You need to buy a new tube (do people really sample mascaras? Eww) and apply a couple coats, then wait a few hours to see how the mascara performs. Does it flake? Does it coat evenly? Does it dry too quickly, preventing more coats? (I like a few coats.) It’s also worth mentioning that I like to be a little vampy with my lashes – I go big! My makeup is generally pretty natural, but I like some OOomph in the lash department. Every girl needs to find what’s best for her lashes. Let me know if you try any of my picks, or have your own favorites! Call them out in the comment section, I’d love to hear them.

Here’s what I reach for:

  • Maybelline Lash Sensational – My everyday. A nice, curved fan brush. Lengthens & separates lashes well.
  • Benefit’s They’re Real! – Date night mascara. Va Va Voom! Straight, spiked brush. Lash nirvana. I’m serious.
  • L’Oreal Miss Manga –  Church, or Girls-Night-Out. Did I just say that in the same sentence? Ha, ha ha. Don’t let the packaging scare you (it’s cartoon-ish and juvenile.) Straight wand, but the brush twists and turns every which way. Which grabs every last lash – genius design! It’s my middle-road, somewhere between the Lash Sensational and They’re Real.

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